It’s okay to be both happy & sad
The last few weeks have hit my husband and I like a ton of bricks! If you aren’t caught up to speed, my body went into pre-term labor on December 7, 2023 at only 17 weeks along, and I delivered our sweet baby boy that morning in the ER. It was awful and traumatizing in so many ways.
But, what I want to briefly talk about today is grief in general. I knew I’d never be “over it,” but when I randomly was hit with the hardest wave of grief 7 weeks after the miscarriage when I had been feeling “good for the most part,” it shocked me.
I feel like most people are there for you immediately after, but only a few people check in 1 month, 2 months, and even several months/years after something like this happens. But, grief hits you over and over in new ways. And guess what?? It’s NORMAL.
As a society, we need to normalize grief and not being afraid to talk about it.
If I’m being 100% honest, I have spent hours in the last 2 months crying. I’ve been angry, mad, bitter, upset, & lacking joy. That doesn’t mean there haven’t also been moments of happiness because there have been quite a few! I have a beautiful family that I’m so so grateful for! But, it’s possible and completely normal to feel happy and sad simultaneously.
For example, I can be so so happy for friends experiencing pregnancy and also turn my back to cry about it too. Because my heart is still aching. I can be joy-filled and confident in Christ’s love for me and also let my heart ache from the devastating loss we’ve been through.
Don’t forget, no matter what you’re going through that God is here for you!! He has not forgotten about you and loves you SO MUCH. Even when you don’t feel His love, it’s there! Rest in that love today!! ❤
Give yourself the grace you need.
Tia Marie 🙂
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